School Bullying: Here’s EXACTLY Why Each and Every One of Us Needs to Develop Zero Tolerance

In bully, harassment, school, teacher on December 18, 2011 at 10:26 pm

Recently, a student received a two day in-school suspension.  What was his “crime?”  He stood up for, and defended, two other students who were being bullied.

Here’s the full accounting.  The defender, named Cole, was walking down the school hallway with his friends when he witnessed two younger students being verbally and physically harassed by some older students.  At first, Cole did try to reason with the bulliers who responded with, “Don’t tell us what to do”–and then pushed him against a wall.

When the assistant principal showed up, the bulliers turned the story around, saying that Cole started the incident.  When Cole tried to explain what really happened, the response was “It was none of your business.”  It’s still inclear as to whether the bulliers have received any punishment.

Let’s be very clear.  We all need to develop a zero tolerance attitude toward this problem.  School bullying affects each and every one of us, whether or not we have kids ourselves.

First, it puts every child,  every teacher, every school administrator, and every school staffer in jeopardy.  Remember the Columbine tragedy? One of the main triggers was bullying, since one of the shooters later admitted that he did so to “get even with those who made fun of me.”

Second, far too many kids are driven to suicide, or brought to the brink, by bullying.  If that’s not bad enough, the Buffalo teenager who commited suicide earlier this year is STILL being harassed, even in death.  The parents of that boy told an MSNBC reporter that their daugher attended a school dance.  When a song, dedicated to the late teenager, came on, the bulliers chanted, “We’re glad you’re dead!”

Third, kid bullies often become adult bullies.  It’s also not unusual for the bullied to become a bullier.  Think of spousal abuse, child abuse, murders, assaults, and other crimes.

Four, and probably the most disturbing of all, was the response of the school.   Why did they take the bullier’s story as fact, without even checking it out, especially given the amount of news stories, statistics, andawareness generated by school bullying?  It was also later discovered that he didn’t even report the incident to his higher-ups. Why was the defender who, in my opinion, exhibited integrity, courage, and compassion, automatically punished?  Is this really how we want to raise our adults?

So, take a few minutes to do a Google search and find some worthwhile organizations dedicated to this subject.  There’s even a Facebook page called “Stand Up to Bullying Day.”

Irene Ross, CHHC, AADP is a board certified wellness and nutrition coach who helps people alter unhealthy habits to bring their lives into balance.  She’s author of the forthcoming book, 25 Ways to Fire Up Your Day:  Increase Energy, Get More Done in Less Time and Balance Your Life.  She writes a twice-monthly newsletter, “Power Wellness,” which can be subscribed to from her website:  http://www.eating

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  1. I agree. I experienced bullying until university, though middle school was the worst. I have heard other stories of students being punished for sticking up for themselves and others, and a Japanese father who punched one of his daughter´s bullies. I hope we can find a solution that will work.

    • I think this is why we ALL have to develop a zero tolerance. Each and every person needs to realize the seriousness of this and get involved-then there’ll be a solution!

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